A method of raising children based on autonomy

When a more autonomous approach to parenting begins to have a positive effect in schools and homes, we expect the whole process to gradually feel more like common sense rather than a major reform. .
1. Lead to solutions.
You know what five times three is? What if I add five more?”
Why does it crack if you pour warm water on a cold glass?”
Hold the indicator so that the numbers don’t flip over.”
Child care is a teaching job, and the teacher looks for opportunities to learn from anything.
Parents should detect these moments and guide the child in the direction in which the answers are answered.
Children understand and remember things we’ve discovered on our own longer than we have given them on a hasty basis. .
2. Help us consider mistakes and understand the consequences of mistakes.
” It’s okay. I could wake up. I’ll show you how to clean up.
Next time, keep in mind that you’ll have to move a little more, and take out the lumps on oatmeal. Next time I’ll show you how not to make mistakes.
The broom is falling because it is so short that it can not withstand the weight of the broom stand.
Remove spilled goods, and next time use another bucket.”
It can be difficult to exercise patience and a sense of humor when dirty water is spilled on the kitchen floor and glass is scattered all over the place.
By showing that mistakes are also a part of learning, children will be able to recover better the next time they make a mistake and will be more likely to think positively about their abilities. Teaching people as if the world would collapse when they mess things up only enhances their fear of failure. .
3. Make failure as important as success.
I am very proud that you kept solving the problems without giving up even though it must have been difficult.”
” What could I say to help you understand your mind without throwing toys?”
One way to teach the fact that we consider mistakes to be an important educational tool is to love and support them constantly when they are as successful in life as when they are.
Find a lesson to be learned from failure.
Next time you can help me to deal with mistakes and come up with new ways to recover from them.
When a child ruins a job, give him sympathy and love.
That is when our support is most necessary. .
4. Acknowledge the frustration and disappointment of the child.
” My mom is upset when something doesn’t work out right from the beginning, but she keeps trying until she understands it. Remember I missed the job my mom wanted yesterday? I’m really disappointed, but if I work hard, I’ll be able to find another job.”
” Mom knows how disappointed you must have been by this math test. But wouldn’t it be a great pleasure to know how to do it?”
Sometimes math is hard, and when you said you wouldn’t have lunch with a friend, you would be really upset, and when you put a mark on the assignment that the teacher is pointing out your child around. Everyone should feel that someone is listening and understanding the story.
Ties are formed in this way.
Showing sympathy for the child’s feelings will make it much easier to solve the next problem. .
5. Feedback Period.
” Now, look at the buttons. Something’s wrong, do you know what’s wrong?”
” If I had forgotten to raise the number of digits in another problem, wouldn’t I have made the same mistake in this problem?”
Efficient feedback supports the effort and encourages the child to detect mistakes.
Children are more respectful of opinions that empower them to solve problems on their own than to specific instructions. Only then will the solution come from the child, not the parent. .

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